The Christian’s view of sexual values should be vastly different from the world’s; in spite of the fact that we live in a sex saturated society and an “anything goes” mentality. Being that sex was created by God, I believe that he knows best why sex is best for individuals within the context of marriage.
Indiscriminate sex outside of marriage leaves the heart cold and indifferent; it also trivializes marriage and the sacredness of two people giving themselves to one another sexually.
Substituting sexual contact for emotional intimacy never works. Sex has no meaning in itself. It is only within the context of a committed, monogamous relationship that sex has the ultimate meaning. Sex outside of marriage destroys self-esteem, self-confidence and bolsters feelings of embarrassment and shame; which is why children who are sexually abused suffer from feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem. The same principle is at work in adults in that it is hard to feel good about yourself when you have taken your clothes off and engaged in the most intimate contact you can with someone, and they ignore you afterwards and pretend nothing ever happened! Repeatedly engaging in sexual immorality just lowers one’s self-esteem more and more. It also makes the heart colder, more distant and desensitized to feelings of genuine love. (It makes genuine love more difficult to recognize.)
Sex outside of marriage leaves one open to possession by sexual spirits(demons), which can ma
ke one unable to control sexual desires. Sexual immorality is the one sin that can bring someone into total bondage(very similar to drug addiction);however sexual addiction is worse because you bring other people into the same bondage as yourself. This is why some people are so promiscuous and seem to be unable to decline any offer of sexual advances.
Sexual immorality is particularly dangerous for a Christian. Firstly, because of Christ’s teaching we should know better;( Hebrews 13:4), ( I Corinthians 7:9); secondly, when in the body of Christ, we are literally in Christ. We are a part of him, he is a part of us. When we take our bodies and engage in sexual immorality, it is the same as taking Jesus’s body and joining it in that sexual act. (I Corinthians 6:19) This can never be taken lightly and severe consequences occur when a Christian joins their body with someone they are not married to.
with every “relationship” that doesn’t work in a bed-hopping mentality, the mind is constantly wondering, “is this one going to work”, or “when is he or she going to walk off and leave me.”
The consequences of a failed relationship or engagement aren’t as detrimental to one’s emotions if sexual involvement isn’t in the picture. If you believe your body and emotions are sacred and you only give your heart and body to a person you can trust with your life and future, then remaining sexually pure makes good sense. Since God has called us to peace,( and this means peace of mind); it makes sense that he wants us to be whole and at peace with our decisions; and this is especially true in regards to our physical bodies and our emotional well-being.