The ultimate form of discipline and training for children is teaching. The training of children involves consistent and systematic teaching with love and guidance to help children become responsible adults and productive citizens. The main rod that is used in the training of children should be meticulous and consistent teaching from the word of God, the Bible. God instructs parents to begin teaching children when they are very young. The reason being is that once a child approaches adolescence, it becomes extremely difficult to raise them in a particular way since they are very near to being grown. The Bible is clear in stating that spanking a child who misbehaves is acceptable; but once a child approaches adolescence it is ineffective as well as unwise to use physical punishment as a form of discipline.
Parents are given authority from God to raise their children and that authority is given for the protection of the child. Children are not capable of determining what is best for themselves; which is why God gives them parents.” Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction drives it far from him.”: (Proverbs 22:15) If as parents we don’t take seriously our responsibility to train our children, we reap the folly of this when the child becomes an adult or even while the child is still quite young. ” The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.” (Proverbs 29:15)
As stated before, the training (teaching ) of children should begin as soon as they are able to understand language. Here is a non-exhaustive list of the ways in which we are to train our children:
1. Teach your children scriptures in particular that refer to child training.”Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.Honor thy father and mother for this is the first commandment with a promise…” (Ephesians 6:1,2)Children have to be taught that it is a blessing to be obedient to their parents.
2. Do not be afraid to exercise your God-given authority in training your children and setting limits on unacceptable behavior. Keep in mind that it is a commandment from God to train our children in the Lord. God lets us know we are to be diligent about it.(Deut.6:6,7)
3. Be careful to set an example of the behavior you want your child to emulate. For instance if you tell your child that church attendance is important for spiritual well being; make sure you attend church.
4. Realize that training a child involves all aspects of their lives; not just the spiritual. Training involves helping a child develop the special God-given talents and gifts to use to further the kingdom of Jesus Christ in the earth. If your child demonstrates an extraordinary ability in playing the piano, efforts should be made to develop that gift; such as piano lessons or a piano where the child can practice. If a child demonstrates remarkable ability in a particular sport, they should be given the opportunity to participate in that sport.
If we take serious and are diligent about raising our children according to Biblical standards, we will reap the benefits of it and so will they in the years to come. We can then truly understand what the scripture means when it says: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”